I lose; you win. That’s passive communication in a nutshell.
I won’t put forward my opinions and beliefs, so my needs won’t be met; and you can walk all over me.
Passive is one of the four main styles of communication, along with aggressive, assertive, and passive-aggressive.
At times, passive has its place, but if it’s your go-to communication style – your default position, particularly at times of stress and conflict – you may have a problem.
“So Leah, what do you do?”
“I run my own communications consultancy and speaking business, Methmac Communications. I help businesses, community groups and individuals improve and deliver their communications through media, public relations and community engagement. I also run workshops and motivational seminars to teach people how to communicate more effectively and get the most out of life.”
This is my elevator pitch. I use a version of this response (sometimes shorter, sometimes with a slightly different focus, depending on context) every time I’m asked about my business or what I do.
I was prompted to write about this after a conversation with friends about my work. A couple commented that working at night must be awful when I could be relaxing in front of the TV.
(For the record, I barely ever watch TV. If I wasn’t working I’d be reading or writing instead; or *shudder* doing housework.)
For them watching television is a good night in. For me? Not so much.