What do you do when someone gives you feedback you don’t like? When they criticise or disagree with your behaviour, actions, or words?
Do your hackles rise? Does your back straighten?
Is your immediate response to their offence, defence?
Do you shoot the messenger?
Very few people enjoy receiving negative or ‘constructive’ feedback. Even when you know the other person is right, it can still be tough to hear.
But being able to receive feedback is a vital skill for personal and professional success. It allows you to improve and develop, and is a sign of high emotional intelligence.
I had three children in 3.5 years and while I knew I wanted to stay home with them while they were little, I was worried about having a big gap on my resume.
Starting my own business when my youngest was 10 months old was the solution. I would take a few consulting jobs here and there around my husband’s shifts and that way I could keep my skills and experience up-to-date.
Ladies! Gather round, lean in, listen up. We need to talk.
You need to stop.
Stop dismissing your achievements, talking yourself down, brushing off your success, and diminishing the results of your hard work as simply ‘good luck’.
STOP IT! It’s hurting you. It’s hurting all of us.