“Do you ever fall apart?”
That’s the question someone asked me recently and it’s one I really want to answer.
Yesterday I had knee surgery. An arthroscopic clean out and lateral release of the knee cap. It went well and the surgeon’s happy. It was the third operation I’ve had on that knee and I’ll get the same procedure on the other knee in about six weeks, for the second time.
The surgery was minor and should give me some relief from my knee pain.
But it wasn’t all good news.
What do you think of when I say ‘aggressive communication’?
I’m guessing you jump straight to the stereotypical image of a person who yells, bullies, threatens, and intimidates others with the aim of getting their own way.
But while this is the version of aggressive communication most people picture, there’s a lot more to it than that.
Aggressive communication can take a much subtler form and you might be guilty of it without even realising.
You may be unintentionally aggressive.
I’m good at being kind to other people. I’m friendly, forgiving and empathetic.
When I did the VIA Institute on Character’s strengths survey recently, forgiveness came out number one, followed by kindness.
But when it comes to the way I treat myself, I’m nowhere near as nice.